Why is it that even in retirement—a time often imagined as peaceful and free—we find ourselves caught in cycles of conflict, blame, and frustration? Could it be that some dynamics, deeply rooted in our behavior, follow us into this new phase of life?
In this episode of How NOT to Retire, Dr. Richard Himmer unpacks the intriguing concept of the Drama Triangle, a behavioral model that illuminates how we unknowingly play out toxic roles in relationships. Whether you find yourself feeling like the overburdened Victim, the well-meaning Rescuer, or the critical Persecutor, these roles can perpetuate a cycle of misunderstanding and resentment—even in the so-called golden years.
But here’s the twist: What if these roles are not only keeping us stuck but also holding us back from the true freedom and joy retirement promises? Dr. Himmer doesn’t just explain how the Drama Triangle plays out; he challenges you to question the underlying beliefs that keep you locked in these patterns. What would happen if you embraced the discomfort of change and rewrote your internal script? Could your relationships—and even your own sense of identity—transform in ways you never imagined?
Join us as we explore:
Real-life scenarios where the Drama Triangle disrupts harmony in retirement.
How shifting roles between Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer creates a web of emotional exhaustion.
Practical steps to break free from these roles and replace them with empowering alternatives like the Creator, Challenger, and Coach.
Retirement isn’t just about financial security or leisure; it’s about stepping into a new chapter of personal growth and fulfillment. If you've ever felt unappreciated, overly critical, or burned out from “saving the day,” this episode will empower you to rewrite those scripts and create a retirement filled with joy, balance, and authentic connection. Tune in and take the first step toward breaking free from toxic roles—your relationships (and future self) will thank you!
Because the question isn’t just how NOT to retire poorly—it’s how to truly live well in retirement.
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